Tips for Getting to Know Someone
One of the best ways to get to know someone is to ask questions. Spending time with them is also helpful. If you can plan a date that is casual, it will allow you to talk and get to know each other in a more natural way. Here are some tips for getting to know someone:
Don’t Ask Unpleasant or Controversial Questions
Unless you want to have a very uncomfortable time together, don’t ask political or religious questions, and avoid any other touchy subjects. While these issues might be important if you are looking for a soul-mate, you need to build a stronger relationship before you get into those topics.
Ask Questions about What They Like to Do
People generally like to be asked questions much more than they like to hear someone rattle on forever about how awesome they are. You can’t get to know someone without posing questions, so think of a few things you would like to know about them. Some questions you can ask that would be light-hearted yet insightful could be:
- Would you rather watch a play or see a movie?
- Do you like to read paper books or electronic versions?
- Would you rather visit Egypt or Iceland?
- Would you rather go hiking or mountain biking?
You Ask Questions That Go a Little Deeper
If you feel like your relationship can take deeper questions, try asking questions that invite longer responses and have a little more meaning. Remember that asking “why” can help the conversation along:
If you didn’t have to work for money, what would you do with your time?
- What is your favorite childhood memory?
- What is the biggest challenge you’ve faced up to now?
- If you could time travel, what time period would you like to visit?
- What do you miss most about being a kid?
Getting to know someone takes time. If you are looking for a relationship that can stand the test of time, it is worth the effort and time it takes to really learn about the other person. Don’t be afraid to ask questions that come to mind, and when it is your turn to answer, do it honestly. The best relationships are built on foundations of open and honest communication.